The field of interpersonal communication covers all communication you have with - you guessed it - other people! This communication may be among friends, family, co-workers, strangers, etc. Interpersonal communication is what sets human beings apart from the animals. Interpersonal communication is a powerful tool and while everyone can communicate naturally, certain skills can be developed in order to be an effective interpersonal communicator. Again, it is worthwhile to refer back to the basics of communication theory and to keep these things in mind as you set out to communicate.
In any relationship, there are stages of intimacy, moving gradually from impersonal to personal. I have created a diagram to show these stages. Communication will look different depending on where you are along the intimacy diagram.
In ministry, there are both risks and benefits associated with interpersonal communication, especially as you move towards greater intimacy (the 'hang out' stage) with people. Some benefits of interpersonal communication is that it allows you to minister and connect with people on a deeper level. Intimacy means that you will know people more fully and honestly and this will facilitate a greater ability for accountability, healing, pastoral counsel and other ministry. Deep interpersonal relationships also allow you as a minister to be real and vulnerable with people rather than always needing to maintain a professional front. One needs to look no further than Jesus for an example of the benefits of intimate interpersonal relationships. His disciples provided companionship to Jesus during his earthly ministry.
On the other hand, one doesn't have to look any farther than Jesus for examples of the risks of intimate interpersonal relationships. Greater intimacy equals a greater capacity to be hurt and betrayed. The people who we love the most are often the people we hurt the most. Another risk associated with deeper interpersonal relationships is that it can make it difficult in a church or ministry setting to make objective decisions and to continue to be the clear leader. Whether it is desired or not, leaders are always set apart from the people they lead and this line becomes blurred when intimacy is great.
As previously stated, interpersonal communication will look different depending on the level of intimacy you have with a person. Regardless of what level of intimacy you have though, it is important to communicate clearly and effectively. In terms of ministry, relationship boundaries must be clearly communicated to others so as to maintain professionalism and purity.
Interpersonal relationships enrich our lives daily. While there are risks involved in communicating and getting close to people, the rewards are far greater!
On the other hand, one doesn't have to look any farther than Jesus for examples of the risks of intimate interpersonal relationships. Greater intimacy equals a greater capacity to be hurt and betrayed. The people who we love the most are often the people we hurt the most. Another risk associated with deeper interpersonal relationships is that it can make it difficult in a church or ministry setting to make objective decisions and to continue to be the clear leader. Whether it is desired or not, leaders are always set apart from the people they lead and this line becomes blurred when intimacy is great.
As previously stated, interpersonal communication will look different depending on the level of intimacy you have with a person. Regardless of what level of intimacy you have though, it is important to communicate clearly and effectively. In terms of ministry, relationship boundaries must be clearly communicated to others so as to maintain professionalism and purity.
Interpersonal relationships enrich our lives daily. While there are risks involved in communicating and getting close to people, the rewards are far greater!
These boys have clearly learned the power of
interpersonal relationships!
As we grow in intimacy with others, the importance of communication grows!
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